People like this are sometimes called empaths. An empath is someone who is ”highly sensitive and has the ability to sense what people around them are feeling”.
Most times when they encounter someone in need, they guilt trip themselves into trying to make the person feel better. Whether the person’s motives are genuine or not, empaths usually find it hard to say NO.
If you’re like this, especially when it comes to compromising for your colleagues all the time, please keep reading.
First of all, we understand the kind of guilt you might experience when you say NO to something you know would take a lot from you, but also understand that after the guilt comes the realisation that you put yourself first. Even if it’s for the first time ever.
That annoying feeling of angst that comes when you agree to do something for someone and you know you have a lot on your plate too is definitely worse than when you say what’s truly on your mind.
You don’t have to overburden yourself with other people’s responsibilities especially when you have yours, except you have the extra time on your hands.
Avoid people who ask with no limits. Sometimes in life, you encounter people whose lives are the true definition of the saying, ”give them an inch and they take a mile”. When you help them with a small task, they keep coming back with more time-consuming tasks until you become a full-blown doormat for those people. Avoid them completely! As an empath, it takes a lot to not hear those voices in your head that judge you for not helping out, but in reality, you’re just giving off to people who have no limit to what they can take from you.
Lastly, before you agree to help out, ask yourself if you’re doing it grudgingly or from your heart. Deep down, you know the answer to that question. Act accordingly.
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Ruth Chukwurah is a graduate of Linguistics from the University of Benin. Ruth has worked as a Social Media Manager and Web Content Creator for almost 3 years. She enjoys putting down her thoughts in words and sharing them with other people. Ruth’s mantra in life is to live and let live, don't judge when you haven't been in another person’s shoes. She is interested in music, movies, art and food.