”Confidence is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.”
In the corporate world, so many people than we care to admit are struggling with self-esteem issues. Many jobs and other life-changing opportunities have been lost by people who truly needed them and probably were more qualified than those who eventually got them. The reason? Confidence!
Putting it out there that confidence does not automatically translate as ”pride”. A confident person is one who stands by what is right, learns from his mistakes and makes informed decisions. Confident people accept compliments and work to earn their status.
Even as a business owner, if you do not have enough confidence in yourself and the quality of your goods, making sales would be really difficult for you. There’s no special skill or talent you have to have to be confident, you just need to take more interest in what you do and define exactly what you want to gain from it. Is it more sales? Your brand becoming a household name? Being in line for a promotion? Whatever it is, being confident in yourself and your worth is a prerequisite to career and business success.
If you’re finding it hard to build your confidence especially when you find yourself in the midst of highly influential and successful individuals, here are some steps you can consider taking in order to build your confidence.
- Recognise your achievements: it’s very easy for our minds to focus on our failures than achievements. It’s just human nature. It only takes a certain amount of conscious effort on our part to focus on the things we have accomplished. Always learn to recognise your achievements. Even if you’ve had a million failures, you still did one or more things right and this realisation will guide you into getting more things right in life.
- Get a hobby: doing the things we love frequently puts us in the right mindset to do other things we might find challenging. When you tackle a difficult task with a confident persona, you’re 100 times likely to get it right than when you do it with an already defeated mindset. So, find a hobby and engage in it often.
- Spend time with people who genuinely love you: don’t waste your time with negative people who only give you 12 other problems for every solution you come up with. It’s one of the biggest joy killers.
- Practice! Practice! Practice!: go out often, walk up to people politely and strike conversation politely. Sometimes when there is an opening in your office for a speaker at an event, volunteer. Even if you fail the first time, you can recognize all you did wrong and brush yourself up when the opportunity comes again. Don’t keep to yourself at social events. Socialise and build your confidence and network.
- Words of Affirmation: the person you spend all your time alive with is YOU. You need to start saying positive things to yourself. Start speaking words of encouragement and confidence to yourself and you would definitely get used to it.
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Ruth Chukwurah is a graduate of Linguistics from the University of Benin. Ruth has worked as a Social Media Manager and Web Content Creator for almost 3 years. She enjoys putting down her thoughts in words and sharing them with other people. Ruth’s mantra in life is to live and let live, don't judge when you haven't been in another person’s shoes. She is interested in music, movies, art and food.