Today was super stressful…
How does one achieve work life balance with all these odds stacked against you? How do I strictly adhere to family time when work follows me home like a swarm of bees? Phone still buzzing, escalations still flying, notifications still beeping. Phew!
Office chat group still bubbling past midnight.
OH boy! Tell me how. Tell me how does one handle just two days of just Christmas and New Year day of rest before new work calendar year begins? I think HR Managers should be sensitized about the importance of making sure their employees have enough rest. Rest is as important as work if not more important. Or am I the only one that feels this way? Am I overreacting? S’ogun l’aye ni?
Who lied to these HR guys that we can still maintain a high level of productive without giving us enough break? How will a nursing mother not breakdown under this resource management style? How will a nursing father still maintain his sanity when he’s stressed out? I pity the married women who will have to wake early to take care of her family and still have to balance it with her career, to think that she got just a maximum of three days holiday before a new year starts is scary. It’s only a matter of time before it takes a toll.
This scary questions popped up in my mind this morning again, I hope I won’t regret how I’m living my life now when I’m 50 years old. My biggest fear is not failure, its regret. Am I balancing my work life and my personal life well enough? I hope my spouse and children won’t be waking up next to a total stranger after I retire. I hope I’m not unconsciously married to my job at the moment, at the expense of relationship with family & friends.
I remembered what I told Ola the other day. I asked: hope we’re not trading our health for money with the hope that after we’ve gathered enough money we’ll be bold enough to say no to any job that does not place a premium on our body and mental health. If health is lost, can money replace it?
Dealing with work and people could be stressful and exhausting sometimes, but I’ve learnt to be assertive instead of aggressive. I’d rather assert my feelings, opinions, or beliefs instead of becoming angry, defensive, or passive. I no longer seek to be liked. I would never be passive with matters that concerns my destiny.
If you’re reading this, then you’ve obviously found my diary where I hid it. My advice for you is that you set limits appropriately and learn to say no to requests that would create excessive stress on your life. In this life, one needs to make time for hobbies and interests. At the end it won’t matter how much is in my bank account, what will matter is how well I lived my life.
Me I will get enough rest and sleep o. Body needs time to recover from stressful events. Everyone wants to burn midnight candles with no caution until stroke halts them in their strides. If we no rest body, body got take rest by force.
I cannot come and kill myself!